I have been in school now a little over a month and WOW is it different. Well firstly I made sure that it would be. I am determined to get it done right this time. I couldn't have started out with a better class my Eng Comp class was awesome, I love writing anyway this time I just had a purpose. Not to mention the instructor was awesome! The workload was pretty hefty at times but it wasn't unbearable it actually made it interesting and gave me no time for procrastination :) I am really eager to get started and am actually excited about this whole new world!
Jason is now working two jobs which is more of a hassle for him, I am sure. It is weird, he isn't home a lot and when he is the house is so chaotic! With Max hanging on everything Jayjace does and getting all hyper and excited with every little thing. and with Nick getting wound up around him and blaming him for everything, but secretly loving every minute of the chaotic attention. There has been no word yet on any further education.
Nick is full swing in the fifth grade and quite annoying about it. He has seen that Are you Smarter Than a 5Th Grader and thinks it is gold. SO everyone gets the constant questions on what is an atomic number yada yada yada. So I have started a friendly competition (although not reciprocated yet) Every time I get my graded papers I put them on the fridge and ask him to top them :) None as of yet! All in all he is doing well even making some new friends and has more of an interest in school activities.
Life is definitely interesting and it is going to get even more interesting here in the coming months and years. We just learned a couple days ago my grandmother had to quit her job b/c of health conditions of her husband, she has no savings for retirement, her rented house is up for sale, and she has no where to go if it sells .... LOL That should be interesting guess we will be trying to squeeze some more people in this house :)
Right now I am in my Intro to Computers class *yawn*... well that is not fair I am interested we just aren't at the point where I am learning a new skill today was all talk and email stuff that I am pretty proficient at. lol I know once we start in the power points and excel programs I will be pretty busy because I don't really know about those. So far I have a 4.0 GPA and I intend for it to stay that way :) I don't care how much work it takes I want it to be there. My own little driving competitive force.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
The big D
Some things just frustrate you to no end; and it is hard NOT to take somethings personal even if they are not directed at you. I am a member of several support groups which has been great, however sometimes these support groups are more like a slap in the face for doing things you have done in the past.
This one group in particular, a woman is struggling with the notion of getting a Divorce to her husband of 10 years. She describes a lot of emotional distress and feelings that I completly understand. I can not completly empathize b/c my marriage did not have that much time vested, however I understand her longings and her feelings that it is over, based on her description. Now I am not one to even attempt at making a decision for you especially if I do not know you. My advice in this group is limited to things that I do know either through personal experiece or something I have learned. I do like to give advice because I know when you are going through something stressful or need someone to talk to, it is always nice to know that there is someone out there willing to listen and help guide you.
You are supposed to offer advice not tell someone this is the way it is supposed to be done. I understand marriage is a touchy subject to a lot of people and it is much easier to say what you want to say through a keyboard then it is to say these things in person. However, when I read through some of the advice that these hoity toity people are giving it just enraged me. How could you say such things to someone that is obviously going through a lot of emotional pain over this decision.
Of course in our society the divorce rate is steadily climbing, therefore one can come to the assumption that the traditional thoughts on the sanctity of marriage are not commonly practiced. I believe in trying to make a marriage work but somethings cannot be forgiven. Maybe I am being stubborn. These people are saying that the only reason for a divorce is abuse or infidelity; I agree those are reasons however, what about emotional abuse or simply the other partner deserting you or one party does not even try to make things work. Are you supposed to stand idly by and stay married to someone that obviously doesn't want to be married? Why would someone sacrifice their happieness and try in vain to make that work? It would be apparent to me that the secondary party isn't going to try that they have already made their mind up about the situation.
I did grow up in the church and I do believe that you are supposed to be married when it is right and you are supposed to stay married. However, in today's world that doesn't work if only one person in a failing marriage believes that. SUre give me the argument that you are supposed to marry in your faith and you are supposed to be emotionally stable to make the commitment, I get it! It doen't always happen that way. We make mistakes, sure they affect our lives drastically but we do make these mistakes. Don't judge me for something in my past simply because you wouldn't have done it that way.
This one group in particular, a woman is struggling with the notion of getting a Divorce to her husband of 10 years. She describes a lot of emotional distress and feelings that I completly understand. I can not completly empathize b/c my marriage did not have that much time vested, however I understand her longings and her feelings that it is over, based on her description. Now I am not one to even attempt at making a decision for you especially if I do not know you. My advice in this group is limited to things that I do know either through personal experiece or something I have learned. I do like to give advice because I know when you are going through something stressful or need someone to talk to, it is always nice to know that there is someone out there willing to listen and help guide you.
You are supposed to offer advice not tell someone this is the way it is supposed to be done. I understand marriage is a touchy subject to a lot of people and it is much easier to say what you want to say through a keyboard then it is to say these things in person. However, when I read through some of the advice that these hoity toity people are giving it just enraged me. How could you say such things to someone that is obviously going through a lot of emotional pain over this decision.
Of course in our society the divorce rate is steadily climbing, therefore one can come to the assumption that the traditional thoughts on the sanctity of marriage are not commonly practiced. I believe in trying to make a marriage work but somethings cannot be forgiven. Maybe I am being stubborn. These people are saying that the only reason for a divorce is abuse or infidelity; I agree those are reasons however, what about emotional abuse or simply the other partner deserting you or one party does not even try to make things work. Are you supposed to stand idly by and stay married to someone that obviously doesn't want to be married? Why would someone sacrifice their happieness and try in vain to make that work? It would be apparent to me that the secondary party isn't going to try that they have already made their mind up about the situation.
I did grow up in the church and I do believe that you are supposed to be married when it is right and you are supposed to stay married. However, in today's world that doesn't work if only one person in a failing marriage believes that. SUre give me the argument that you are supposed to marry in your faith and you are supposed to be emotionally stable to make the commitment, I get it! It doen't always happen that way. We make mistakes, sure they affect our lives drastically but we do make these mistakes. Don't judge me for something in my past simply because you wouldn't have done it that way.
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